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IMPORTANT UPCOMING DATES

February 28 – SPIRIT DAY: Pink Shirt Day ("All Kinds of Kindness" is the theme this year.)

February 29 at 6:00 pm – T-Shirt and Hoodie Orders due. Click HERE to order. See the full order form here: /documents/c493f6ca-a99a-4919-ba80-6f50b74ae8b8

March 1 - Please complete the parent survey by this date by clicking HERE

WEBSITE IS UP AND RUNNING!

Our new website is up and running! The look is different and where you find things might have changed, but the search bar at the top is helpful for finding what you need. 

The homeroom daily agenda blogs can now be found under ‘Teaching and Learning’ > ‘Core Subjects’ and the calendar now shows things broken down by month, day and event.

FAMILY MATH GAMES EVENT WAS A HUGE SUCCESS!

We were so pleased to see over 300 families out for our Family Math Games Event last night!  Congratulations to our six winners of the math games we hope will promote more family play at home. The estimations were excellent overall! (The K-1 jar held 15 bears; the 2-3 jar held 60 link cubes; and the 4-5 jar held 78 coloured wooden cubes.)

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PEER CONFLICT, MEAN BEHAVIOUR, AND BULLYING – KNOWING THE DIFFERENCE

This week, we will be engaging in activities for Pink Shirt Day. This year's theme is, “All Kinds of Kindness”, where classes and students will be working to spread kindness in their worlds. 

We will also continue to help students apply strategies for addressing unexpected, unacceptable behaviours with increased independence. While we continue to role play and discuss scenarios with students to help them build their skills, they still often need direct support to feel better about things. When a child is having a problem with peers, it can also be hard for parents to know what is really happening – is it bullying? Or is it something else? 

Children are still learning how emotions work and how to get along with each other. Each type of behaviour must be handled differently to keep children safe and help them learn how to get along with others. See below to help you know how to engage in discussions with your children when issues arise.

What is Not Considered Bullying

Peer Conflict:

Conflict between and among peers is a natural part of growing up. Children will have times when they disagree / argue / have differing opinions where they cannot solve their own problems. They may even become so frustrated that they say mean things or act out physically by hitting, kicking or trying to hurt. 

If it’s peer conflict you will be aware that these children: 

  • usually choose to play or hang out together (or can be on again/off again friends); 
  • have equal power (similar age, size, social status, etc.); 
  • are equally upset about the issue or problem; 
  • likely feel remorse;
  • are both interested in the outcome;
  • want to solve the problem and restore the relationship; and 
  • will be able to work things out with adult help (after calming down). 

Adults can respond by helping the children talk it out, and see each other’s perspective. This is often referred to as “conflict resolution”.  This should be constructive and should:

  • focus on present rather than past issues
  • share both positive and negative feelings as well as similarities in how they are feeling
  • help both children accept mutual responsibility

Mean Behaviour: 

Children are often open and honest with thoughts and feelings.  They can speak without thinking about the consequences. Many children may try out behaviours to assert themselves – sometimes saying or doing mean or rude things – such as making fun of others, using a hurtful name, taking something without permission, not playing fairly, leaving someone out of an activity, game, or event, or “budging” in line. 

If it is mean behaviour, usually: 

  • it is not planned and seems to happen spontaneously or by chance; 
  • it may be spoken or done in anger, frustration, impulsively or with cruelty that is often regretted;
  • it only happens once or twice if it was purposeful;
  • it may be aimed at any child nearby; 
  • the child being mean may feel badly when a someone points out the harm they’ve caused. 

When adults see mean behavior they should not ignore it. Adults should respond quickly, firmly and respectfully to stop the behavior, to let kids know that their actions are hurtful and to re-direct children to more positive behaviour. This quick response stops children from developing a pattern of mean behaviour as their way of interacting with peers, and prevents mean behavior from escalating into bullying. It is a lot easier to correct a child for one nasty comment than to change a pattern of cruelty that grows over time. 

Children on the receiving end of unkind remarks should also be taught to communicate their feelings with the offending child.  For example, it is healthy to say, “I felt hurt when you laughed at my new glasses”. Giving children tools to express their hurt empowers them to be take ownership of their feelings and also to learn how to be assertive when someone is unkind.

Bullying Behaviour: 

Bullying is serious behavior that has three key features – all three must be present for the situation to be considered bullying: 

  • Power imbalance - One child clearly has power over the other(s), which may be due to age, size, social status, and so on. 
  • Intention to harm -- The purpose of the bullying behaviour is to demean, harm or hurt other(s) – it’s intended to be mean, cause harm / fear / distress and is clearly not accidental. 
  • Repeated over time -- bullying behaviour continues over time, and gets worse with repetition. There is a real or implied threat that the behaviour will not stop, and in fact will become even more serious

Bullying can take different forms including:

  • Physical – pushing, hitting
  • Verbal – name calling, threats
  • Social – intentional exclusion with the intent to cause harm, rumours
  • Cyber – using digital technology to harass, demean or threaten

The effect on the child who is being bullied is increased fear, apprehension, and distress. Often by the time adults find out about what is happening, the child has tried many ways to stop the bullying but cannot do so on their own. 

Adults must address the bullying behaviour and ensure the safety of the student who has been targeted. They also need to reassure the children who may have witnessed the behaviour that adults are taking care of it. 

When schools respond to bullying, staff will also help the child who has been bullying others to take responsibility for their actions, and change their behaviour. They will monitor the situation to ensure the bullying stops, and will support the child who has been bullied to regain confidence and a sense of safety. Staff may follow-up with the students who observed the behaviour to help them learn what to do when they see bullying. 

The “conflict resolution” style of bringing the children together is not recommended in bullying situations, until considerable time has gone by and all children are feeling safe enough to talk about what happened so that relationships can be healed.

All staff at Northern Lights School work diligently with students to know the difference between peer conflict, mean behaviour, and bullying. We strive to help our students be responsible for the impact of their behaviour on others and to tell an adult at school if they are upset or worried.  We are grateful for the parents in our school community for being our partners in this very important work. 

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